I made a Facebook video, “Chill Out in Five Minutes or Less,” last April.
I embedded the video below.
But first…you need to know that the reason I posted it isn’t the reason I gave in the video itself.
I want you to know why I posted it.
I posted it because something happened to a woman on Facebook.
Last April, a woman with whom I am friends (but I don’t really know all that well; I met her at a conference years ago) on Facebook begged her Facebook friends to please be gentle.
It was regarding the death of a murderer who had just killed an innocent man.
This woman, 60 years of age, had grown up next door to the murderer and his family. The parents and siblings of the murderer were her friends.
Her post was a preemptive plea.
The news had just broken and she was anticipating the venom that can arise in these matters.
She knew the family was going through their special version of hell.
I was going to quote her, but she has since removed the post.
Apparently, the plea fell on blind eyes and people posted vicious responses. That’s why she removed it.
I’ll try to paraphrase her post from my memory.
In essence, she wrote:
“Please be kind. I know it is in our nature to verbally attack and condemn people and situations of which we only know little. Please be respectful of the families who in this case are truly innocent, have to deal with the aftermath. Please know that they are truly remorseful for the victims of their family member’s actions and wish them only peace and love. Please respect their humanity.”
Reacting vs. Responding
When we are outraged, it is easy to forget that, sometimes, people need kindness and understanding.
This is a great big world with many people. They are living many stories.
Sometimes, these stories collide.
Social media often provides a sense of separateness, as if the people to whom we respond aren’t real. That they aren’t human. That they deserve viciousness that we would never dare utter to a soul face to face.
When we feel that rage, it is crucial that we take a breath before we react.
When we pause and take a moment to respond, we are taking charge of our emotions. We are taking charge of our morality.
We are taking charge of our inner and outer health.
Reacting online is a type of road rage.
I sometimes fall into this trap.
I sometimes hear a news report and I inwardly fly off the handle.
It is during these times I apply the technique outlined in the video below.
So in the video, I lied. A little.
In the video, I told my viewers it was about getting rid of headaches.
And it is.
But that’s not why I made the video that day.
I really was thinking of the woman who pleaded for written mercy and who was denied that mercy.
It was for her that I made the video.
Reacting with hatred hurts everyone.
What happened to her, to her friends; indeed, to the victim, seems endemic these days.
Whether online or in the flesh, people who react violently and ignorantly seem like they are in our face 24/7.
Of course this has an affect on our outlook, the way we see the world, and our health.
There are tons of studies that show that rage hurts our physiology, as well as the physiology of everyone who is a receiver of that rage.
Rage itself is a killer.
I, too, have to remind myself that the only way out of the morass of moral chaos is calm, stillness, compassion, and peace.
The video below teaches how to chill out in five minutes or less. It teaches how to gain that peace quickly.
Chill Out in Five Minutes or Less
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If the above link doesn’t work, you can watch it here.
There is no downside that I know of regarding following its instructions. The worst that can happen is that you fall asleep.
The best is realizing that you have control of your inner situation, and if that’s true, that you have control of your outer situation.
Use this technique. It is my gift.
It is my gift to you and to me.
Let’s all remember to take a step back and focus on our own journey before we insult and judge those who we feel “safe” to condemn.
This is my mission:
To help us clear our nervous system of stress so we can get to the business of living well.
If we can live well, we will gear our efforts toward helping each other rather than hurting each other.
Over the last ten years, I have helped many people reduce interference to their brain and nerve systems via chiropractic adjustments, lifestyle adjustments, and mindset adjustments.
It is the single most important thing in the world to me.
I am opening my chiropractic practice this week in Amsterdam. I am SUPER EXCITED about that!!!
I am also so grateful that technology has gotten us to a point in which I am available around the world through my online coaching company, JOY! Health and Bodyworks.
What I do in JOY is everything I do for my patients in the office, minus the chiropractic adjustments.
Those you need to get from your local chiropractor, and I can help with that. I also help you find practitioners like psychologists and counselors to aid the process as well.
Those are just some of the bonuses with working with me in JOY!
You can take a look at my programs here.
You have a blessed day. Talk to you soon!